When it comes to dating, age isn’t the only factor to consider. Although facial maturity is a good sign, not all emotionally mature partners are also physically mature.
Are wondering if your lover is emotionally immature based on their behaviours? Read on to get a clue.
“Emotional immaturity can reflect a lack of depth and understanding about one’s own emotions, an inability to communicate and process things related to the relationship, as well as lack of empathy and ability to understand your partner’s emotional experiences,” Samantha Burns, a couples counsellor and dating coach.
Here are some signs your partner may be emotionally immature:
Inability To Express Feelings
Emotionally immature people are most definitely likely to find it hard to express how they feel. They shy away from finding perfect words to describe their feelings as this may expose some of their vulnerability and to them, this is shameful.
They are more likely to discard a discussion by telling you “they don’t know what to say” or don’t feel anything about it.
Anger and Name-Calling
Emotionally immature people are prone to quick anger. When they do this, they leverage their knowledge of how hurtful words could be and use it against you. They tend to utter hurtful words. This is not fine, words are meant to be used for communication; resolving issues and not to make others feel bad about themselves.
Controlling and Not Ready To Compromise
Have you noticed that your partner is simply unable to meet you in the middle or budge in any way, shape, or form? If so, emotional immaturity may be to blame. As matchmaker and relationship expert April Davis says, you can spot someone’s inability to compromise when they start lying, blaming, or quilting you in order to get their way.
Being able to communicate your needs and find a middle-ground when an issue arises is crucial for a relationship’s success. If your partner would rather throw a tantrum or sulk than have a conversation about compromise, that’s a big problem.
Emotional immaturity is something that can be worked on. Discuss with your partner and device possible ways to curb this or visit a couple therapist for better diagnoses and help.